Victim mentality is a learned behavior in which a person feels as if the world is against them. It is a state of mind that can be traced back to childhood. It could be learned from family members or the result of trauma1. However, it is possible to overcome it if the person wants to make the attempt to identify and choose direction in remedying 'pity party' behavior.
Our stalker could not get her way because of being proven untruthful. So now she is going to organize a Facebook group to pretend that she can counsel others about stalking support and victimology. Interesting! Pity party sessions! I have requested to be a part of the group but it is doubtful that I will be allowed to join. Being one-sided in counseling others in regards to stalking behavior is not support; it is brainwashing. Grow up! Get a real life!
She is not scared of me; she is spiteful, jealous, and vindictive! She plays at being scared and victimized. If anyone should be the trauma survivor, it should be me! But I survived and I have survived well, strong, courageous, and grateful.
Some examples of victim mentality are:
A low sense of personal agency whereby an individual doesn’t believe they influence their own results in life.
Avoiding responsibility and failing to attribute your failures to yourself.
Pessimism whereby an individual doesn’t believe good things are possible.
Identifying others as the cause for an undesired situation and denying a personal responsibility for one’s own life or circumstances.
Exhibiting heightened attention levels (hypervigilance) when in the presence of others.
Awareness of negative intentions of other people.
Believing that other people are generally more fortunate.
Our stalker finds it easier to blame someone else than hold herself accountable for her actions. Those with a victim mentality often project their insecurities onto others to dissociate themselves from their responsibilities. So now, we have another Facebook account to soothe her emotions, tell someone her woes, have others feel sorry about her, and lie about the events that she caused. Interesting! I dare her to allow me to participate!
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