"We will criticize, attack, and try to sabotage other women, because it rattles us to see in them what we have not permitted in ourselves. We will lash out if we see something emerging or expressed in another woman that we have squashed in ourselves. We won’t wholeheartedly support another woman following her passion if we’ve talked ourselves out of our own. We won’t support her idealism and desire to change the world if we treat our own idealism with judgment or harshness. We can’t celebrate success, ambition, assertiveness in another woman if we are curtailing any of that in ourselves." (Tara Mohr)
This past month has been filled with blessings, challenges, and death. My husband has lost his son, his niece, and his cousin within the space of a week. It is difficult to watch my sweetheart grieve and attempt to keep all together with the burial, attorney, and estate business. But he is doing it with grace and courage. He is telling his story. He is being firm in his convictions and boundaries during this process.
I have learned in this experience that when another person doesn't have a solid argument to back up their opinions, they might revert to insults in order to throw the other person off their game. Call them a few names and they might get distracted enough to forget what they were talking about and focus on the irrelevant comments instead.
If a woman hates herself and is looking for a quick way to feel better, she will throw a couple of insults at another woman. I guess if this is the case, she throws an insult or two to feel better about herself. Here is the issue; while the insulting woman may get a quick 'high' from insulting another, she still has to feel bad about herself. She is attempting to shift her focus from hating herself. Perhaps her addictive behavior needs a break so off she trots to insult another. Perhaps she is bored with her rut of a life. Perhaps the man she loves will not have her. Consider the source and move on!
This week is a week of Thanksgiving. I am grateful for my husband, children, home, and farm. It is becoming all that I have wanted for many years. Hard work, resiience, and ignoring the doubtors and the name callers. Sitting down to a feast of our good works with family and friends. Rejoice in the week!
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