Today was a beautiful day and tomorrow is planned to be even better. In a few weeks, we are taking a vacation to Devil's Tower. This is one of my favorite places to visit and there is a beautiful spirit there that makes me feel alive, beautiful, and blessed to be a part of such a country that allows the freedom to travel.
There is a psychology to living in the past. The reasons are infinite and varied, but it could be that people unconsciously fear and simultaneously seek to master certain life evens that trouble them. Why live in the past when the future is waiting to be lived? It is important to understand what makes us more likely to dwell on the past, considering the numerous negative consequences.
Personality plays a role. Some people are more prone to rumination than others. Nearly everyone dwells in the past at some point, but some people do it more often and are more likely to get stuck in their thoughts. Shame also appears to be linked to rumination and negative thoughts. Shame occurs when we fail to achieve our goals. Unmet goals tend to leave us focused on the goal. Feelings of shame such as not not achieving what others have or shame at not being good enough can cause us to overthink things and become stuck in negative thoughts of past failures.
How grateful I am for being able to move forward, not allowing the criticism of others or the defeats that may come my way deter me from my goals. How grateful I am for the husband who encourages, the classes that allow academic growth, and the family and friends that motivate me to be a better person today than I was yesterday.
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